Parenthood is a whole new level of chaos on its own.. throw in ADHD, and the postpartum phase can feel like an Olympic-level challenge. Trust me, I've been there! As someone with ADHD and years of experience as a postpartum doula, I've been in the trenches of juggling a busy brain, a newborn, and a never-ending to-do list. I remember one particularly chaotic day when I was trying to feed my baby, answer a work email, and remember when I last ate and switched the laundry all at the same time. But here's the good news: it's possible to thrive with the right tools, systems, and mindset (and maybe a snack or three).

These hacks aren't about perfecting things—they're about finding what works for your brain while keeping you present and sane during this time of life. These are the tips I wish I had when I was postpartum and what I regularly talk to clients about when they're struggling to function. 

Simple Routines Are Your Secret Weapon

While schedules might not always be our cup of tea, routines are like a comforting rhythm our brains crave. They provide a sense of relief and comfort, even if you don't always stick to them (who can with a newborn?!) I know when I have a routine and what I'm doing each day, I can function a little bit more. 

How to make postpartum routines ADHD-friendly:

• Focus on order over time: Instead of "Baby has to nap at 10:30 AM," try "I'll feed the baby → burp the baby → cuddle → nap." Don't stress about the time - follow your baby's cues and establish a routine that works for you. 
• Anchor routines to existing habits: Have you heard of habit stacking? It's a hack for trying to include a new habit in your daily routine by adding it to something you're already used to doing. As a new parent, this might look like pairing diaper changes with filling your water bottle or brushing your teeth with setting out baby's clothes for after their morning nap.
• Visual aids are your friend: A whiteboard in the kitchen or a colorful Post-it on your fridge can keep your routines front and center (and off your mental clutter list). There's no shame in checklists, and you're more likely to use them if you leave it where you can see it!

Pro tip: Don't forget yourself in the routine. Create small rituals like "Baby naps → you nap, too" or "Morning coffee → baby snuggles → quick walk outside." These moments anchor your day and remind you to care for your needs alongside the babies'.

Make "Landing Zones" for the Stuff You Don't Want To Lose As a New Parent 

ADHD often means spending way too much time looking for things that are right there. Landing zones are your safe space in the chaos —they give everything important a home, so we don't have to remember where we put it. Need that extra pacifier? You know where it is at all times. 

How to create ADHD-friendly zones:

• Diaper Station: Fill a basket with diapers, wipes, rash cream, extra onesies, burp cloths, extra pacifiers, etc., and keep it near your most-used spots (bedroom, living room, nursery). For instance, I kept a small basket with these essentials on the coffee table in the living room, giving me easy access without having to run to another level of my home for a diaper change. 
• Feeding/Pumping Station: Stock a tray with pump parts, a nursing pillow, snacks (for you!), a water bottle, burp cloths, and your phone charger. Sometimes, a necklight or adjustable lamp can be useful, too! 

You Zone: Yes, you need one, too. It's a cozy corner with your favorite blanket, a book, and a place to stash a snack or two. I liked having embroidery supplies or a coloring book nearby. It's a space that's just for you, a reminder to take care of yourself amidst the chaos of parenting.

Pro tip: Make your landing zones visible. Clear bins or open baskets keep everything in sight, so you won't have to dig for that last pacifier when the baby's crying.

Lists + Alarms = ADHD Life-Savers for New Moms 

If it's not written down, it doesn't exist. For ADHD parents, lists and alarms aren't just helpful but game-changers. They take the mental load off our brains and turn 'OMG, I forgot!' into 'Oh yeah, it's on the list.'

How to ADHD-proof your lists:

• Keep it short and sweet: Stick to 2-4 daily must-dos. Overloading your list leads to overwhelm.
• Make it accessible: Use a whiteboard, an app like Todoist, or a notebook you can leave on the counter. I like to use my notes app and cross things off or share it with my partner for extra accountability (and help!) 
• Set alarms for the important stuff: feeding times, diaper changes, or even "Take meds" reminders. Bonus: Alarms help break hyperfocus, so you don't spend 45 minutes reorganizing the diaper drawer instead of eating lunch.

Pro tip: Celebrate the little wins. Cross something off? Give yourself a mini high-five (or a chocolate).

Batch Tasks, Outsource, and Skip the Guilt

Multitasking isn't always ADHD-friendly, but batching? Sometimes, it's the only way I get things done! Grouping similar tasks saves time and helps you focus without constant mental gear-shifting. And when in doubt, ask for help.

ADHD-friendly batching ideas:

• Pick a day of the week for laundry (or a few if needed). Do all baby laundry in one go while watching your favorite Netflix show (we all know folding socks is better with Schitt's Creek in the background).
• Prep snacks and meals in batches—chop veggies, portion out nuts, or make a week's freezer-friendly meals. If preparing a week's worth of meals at once sounds overwhelming, try doubling up on whatever dinner you're making one evening a week, eating one, and freezing one for later! 
• Schedule "errand day" instead of running to the store four times weekly. It's better for your energy and your brain. I like to run mine mid-week!

Outsource like a boss: Hire a postpartum doula to help with baby care or light housework. Grocery delivery? Yes, please. Outsourcing isn't failure - it's survival (and worth it).

Redefine Rest and Keep It Simple

ADHD brains can struggle with the concept of rest - it's either all-in productivity or all-in Netflix binges. But in postpartum, finding balance is essential. The trick? Redefine what the rest looks like.

ADHD-friendly ways to recharge:

• Micropauses: Five minutes of deep breathing, a quick stretch, or stepping outside for fresh air between baby duties can all help our sanity in postpartum. If you have to set alarms for this, do it. Make time for you. 
• Movement as rest: A short walk with the stroller can feel calming and productive - a win-win for ADHD brains and maybe your baby's afternoon nap! 
• Lower the bar: Your house doesn't need to look perfect. If you're fed, baby's fed, and everyone's alive, you're winning.

Tip: Remember, rest isn't about feeling like you're not being productive. It's about refueling so you can keep going, including letting someone else take over for a while (hello, postpartum doula).

Bonus Hack: Build Your Village

ADHD brains thrive with external accountability and support, so surround yourself with people who lift you. Family, friends, and professionals like postpartum doulas can provide the structure and backup your brain needs to stay on track.

Overwhelmed? Let's Make Postpartum Simpler

Being a new parent with ADHD isn't easy, but you're not alone. At Bountiful Doulas, we specialize in creating personalized support systems that work for neurodivergent parents. Whether you need help with meal prep, overnight care, or setting up ADHD-friendly routines, we're here to make your postpartum journey calmer, easier, and full of joy.

Book a consultation today to discover how we can help you thrive postpartum. You deserve support that meets you where you are.

FAQs

Q: Can a postpartum doula help me organize my ADHD brain postpartum?

A: Absolutely. A postpartum doula can help you create ADHD-friendly systems for baby care, meal prep, and household tasks, reducing mental clutter.

Q: What's the best way to stay on top of a baby's schedule with ADHD?

A: Use a baby-tracking app or a simple whiteboard chart to log feedings, diapers, and naps. Pair it with phone alarms for reminders.